Stick to five things to get you out of your confusion!

There are many reasons for confusion , Most of them are facing the uncertainty of the future and do not know what kind of life they will lead in the future , But I know what kind of future I fear .

You want to work hard, but you don't know what direction you are suitable for .

Maybe you have something you like , But I don't think I can become a career .

In this way, you begin to get suspicious of yourself , Feeling powerless about the future .

In the face of confused pressure , Everyone deals with anxiety in different ways .

The most common way is “ escape ”.

Some people play games to escape from reality , Some people try to distract themselves by painting a play . They all hope that through these behaviors, they can temporarily avoid the problems and choices they need to face .

Although playing games and dramas can make people forget confusion for a short time , But every time the game ends 、 After the movie , You will be surrounded by a greater sense of anxiety and powerlessness . You know this kind of state doesn't help confusion , But I have to rely on games and movies again and again .

Confusion is encountered at every stage of life . The reason why we feel confused , It shows that we begin to think about our own life , Need to know yourself again 、 Know yourself 、 Explore yourself .

Not to cheer you up , You can immediately get out of your anxiety . These can only give you short-term stimulation , It doesn't really help you solve the problem , Just through the spiritual victory method to help you open up .

I suggest you make good use of the confusion period , Think of it as an opportunity to get to know yourself again , Learn to get along with yourself , Start anew and explore the future .

Have not experienced confusion 、 Struggle 、 Think about your choices , Can't really guide your life .

Here you are 5 There are three ways to help you out of your confusion .

NO.1

Live each day

Whether it's avoidance or neglect , Is not a good way to solve confusion , The best way is to live each day firmly . Have a good day , That solid feeling of life will give you strength .

Give yourself a little time to think , Know what you want , Know what you really want to do , Don't avoid your inner voice . This process will take a little time . Other methods can only temporarily suppress . If you can't figure out some problems , Confused will always follow you .

When we are confused, we always think about something that hasn't happened yet 、 Problems that feel difficult to solve . These questions are rather vague , There is no real thing to carry . So if you want to solve it, you have no way to start .

For example, the house is in a mess . Chaos at home is a real problem . You just have to tidy up . The problem will be solved .

But there is no way to solve the confusion . such as , You worry about the future life , Worry about not being happy in the future . These problems cannot be solved immediately , Nature will make you feel powerless .

Confusion can make people surrounded by great anxiety . These pressures will break the pace of your life , And once life becomes irregular , It will make people lose control of their lives . This feeling makes you feel that life is a mess .

The best way is not to fantasize about solving confused problems right away , But we live every day in a down-to-earth way ,

Put down the idea of aiming high , Sink your heart , Start doing the little things in your hands .

You can try running , Do some exercise at home , Or learn to cook . These don't look very impressive 、 It's actually something that smells of fireworks , The best way to comfort a person's heart .

In the process , You will regain control of your life . Small things will bring you hope for life again .

More importantly, these things can be controlled . For a confused person , There are some things you can control every day , It can help you regain your confidence in life .

Regular life 、 A manageable routine can reduce your anxiety .

NO.2

Accumulate every bit of life

Stick to one small thing , After a long time, it can become a kind of psychological sustenance .

No one knows what the future will be like , We can only try to save for the future 、 Be prepared to face the unknown .

It could be reading , It could be running , It could be photography , Anything is OK .

The premise is to do something that can be accumulated .

Although we may not see feedback on these things in the short term , But you have to be clear about the long-term persistence , It will bring you good results . And I chose to read and write when I was confused .

The two core problems of confusion ：

• First of all ,
  I don't know how to choose .

• second ,
  I don't know what to do .

The nature of these two problems can be seen as a lack of knowledge of the world .

The best way, of course, is to find an experienced teacher , Take you out of the confusion little by little .

This is still very difficult for ordinary people . First of all, you don't necessarily know such people . In fact, even if you know , It's hard for others to spend a lot of time on you . Because the essence of this world is exchange .

Reading at this time may be to help yourself 、 The best way to understand the world .

In the face of confusion, we still don't know how to face , How to solve , But we can make changes slowly . The sense of sureness to do things for yourself will also affect your mentality .

These seemingly insignificant things , It will eventually help you get out of your confusion a little bit , Find your own goal . When confused, choose to do something that can only be seen for a long time , It can also make your mind more stable .

NO.3

Don't compare with others

The greatest folly in the world , Is to compare with others . The smartest thing in the world , Is to learn from others .

How about others , That's his business , Good or bad, it has nothing to do with you . You can envy others , But don't fall into blind comparison .

In fact, envy is also a kind of motivation . You want to be better , Expect to be equally successful .

I'm afraid you will fall into comparison , I can't accept that I am inferior to others .

There is a theory in economics called “ Comparative advantage ”. It means that everyone compares with themselves , You will find yourself more advantageous in certain aspects .

Remember it's an advantage over yourself , Within your ability , What is the best thing to do , You just choose what to do . It doesn't matter whether others are better than you in this matter . Because everyone has their own comparative advantages . Although he is better than you , But it may not be cost-effective for him to compete with you , Because he has more advantages to do .

such as , You are very good at cleaning your room . Mayun may be better than you at cleaning the room . Although Ma Yun has an advantage over you in cleaning the room , But it is not his own comparative advantage . His comparative advantage is to manage the company . It's not that he can't do the work of cleaning the room ,  It's just that the profit from doing this is too low for him .

Comparative advantage is just like this , Not from the mentality of the other side , But draw a conclusion through real reasoning .

NO.4

Keep your mental outlook

This is a small suggestion , But it helps a lot in life . Behavior can really affect mentality , As long as you don't give up , There is a chance for change .

When you feel particularly anxious and confused , When you feel restless , You can clean the room , Do something that doesn't require much thought , As long as you have something real to do , A sense of security will come into my mind .

The core of this proposal is not to let yourself go , People live for one breath .

No matter what the living conditions are at the moment , We all have to clean ourselves up , Keep your mental outlook .

This will improve the lazy personal state . Even when confused , We should also face life with full spirit .

The environment can change a person . We all know that . So in daily life , We need to maintain a good environment .

NO.5

Confusion is an opportunity to know yourself

Whether it's talking to yourself , Or keep a journal of your thoughts , It's a good opportunity to know yourself .

The more you know yourself , The more helpful it is for decision-making .

For me , Writing is talking to yourself . I am writing again and again , Gradually find the direction , Slowly understand what you want to do .

If you feel confused , I don't know what the problem is , You can always record your emotions , Repeat frequently , It is also a process of getting to know yourself .

Writing has another advantage . That is, once you write it out , You can look at the problem from a third perspective . So you won't be overly troubled by your emotions , You can reexamine your life from a calmer perspective .

Only know yourself , To understand what you want to do . Had a target , You get out of the confusion .

In the future , Nobody knows what will happen , Uncertainty will always exist , But we have agreed with ourselves , Explore the unknown world together .

The best solution to confusion , Is to face it , Instead of running away .

The process of finding the answer , Is the course of your life .

Every step of life will not be wasted , Because every step is your life .

If you are in a confused stage at the moment , I hope you have the courage to try to face confusion and anxiety .

Face yourself , Maybe it's a gift from confusion .

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