It's better to finish one than start thousands of times (reprinted from Douban)

2012-04-08 19:04:54 meiya

One day a friend came to share his good mood with me ：“meiya, I started running .”
“ How long have you been running ？”
“ It didn't take long , I got my annual pass in a fitness center .”
“ I went for a few runs ？”
Listen to me , My friend suddenly felt a little embarrassed , Scratch your head and say ：“ For three months , Only once .”
My turtle hair comes up , I also like preaching ：“ In fact, there is no need to apply for a fitness card , It's really useless to do that , It is said that a fitness center has made a survey and statistics , There are people who apply for annual cards 70% People only go to the gym once or twice a year , Oh dear , You say it's a waste of money ！ Oh dear , People just like to start , But I can't finish it ???” Speaking of this, I suddenly stopped myself , On the one hand, I found that my friend's face became very smelly , Just like cartoon characters , Three black lines on the forehead , On the other hand, there is a voice in my heart ：“ You can say that others love you , But I can't finish it , Think about your own experience of learning English .”

A year ago. , I made up my mind to start learning English well , Improve your oral English , But now my English level is still standing still . In English study , I usually fish for two days and dry my nets for three days , Think of learning to read an English essay , Listen to BBC perhaps VOA News of , If you don't remember , I won't touch English for several days . I always have a lot of plans , Today, I plan to watch a season of American dramas 《 Friends 》, Learn a few slang words from it ; Tomorrow I plan to listen carefully for a month BBCnews Of 30 News , Practice listening , Accumulate vocabulary ; The day after tomorrow, I planned to send that book to me 《 Fashion English 》 After watching , Recite some fashionable and idiomatic spoken English , At the same time, recite a graduate English vocabulary ??? I just keep planning , A year has passed , I not only saw 《 Friends 》 I also saw 《 desperate housewife 》, But I only watched a few episodes , I can't remember the plot , I didn't remember a word of the dialogue between the protagonists , Not to mention memorizing some idiomatic slang . Listening is the same fate , I not only listened to BBC、VOA, And Crazy English 、 New concept English , I even heard one RCI And a CRI Radio programs （ Canadian radio international Radio Canada International, abbreviation RCI; China Radio International China Radio International, abbreviation CRI） So much listening material , I haven't been listening to anything for a long time . That one 《 Fashion English 》 What is the fate of my book ？ For nearly a year , I only looked at the front 30 page ??? In English learning , I have thousands of plans , But any plan is just the beginning , So I had a million starts , But none of them finished .

In fact, it's not just about learning English , I often do the same at home , I want to mop the floor halfway through the washing , Mop the floor halfway to wash the dishes , The bowl hasn't been washed and I want to tidy up the bookshelf , I want to make milk tea after finishing half of the bookshelves , So I often feel around , A morning has passed , There are no two chores that are really done .

Think about this , My face is as ugly as my friend , Two “ Start enthusiasts ” freemasonry , They sat together and began to sing sad songs ：“ At first it was a disease , When you're on the other side of the stick , I have no end in the beginning ???oh, Constant beginning is a kind of disease .”（ I think I can be a lyricist or something ）

In fact, there are many beginners like us , Not only the fitness center version , English Learning version , There are also those who learn yoga and dance , And filial piety to parents 、 Long travel version 、 And the diet slimming version . All these learning plans have not been adhered to , You did nothing , No progress ; All the weight loss plans have not been adhered to , It didn't work , You are still a fat man who is gasping for breath after running two steps ???

You should have a lot of experience , Starting a project makes people feel good , I feel that life has changed since then , Everything is full of strength and hope , New life , It's exciting , But the implementation and implementation of the plan is painful , So many people can't hold on , Give up the previous plan , To choose another start , Continue to enjoy the happiness of the first few days , Some people even get into the constant beginning , In an endless vicious circle .

Many friends have written to me , When it comes to the three minute heat of doing a lot of things , This is what I keep starting , The problem that has no end is essentially a problem —— Can't hold on to . I came to realize that doing one thing , The enthusiasm brought by the initial interest is only the initial fire , If we want to start a prairie fire, we need to continue to make unremitting investment , People are more and more interested in doing something better and better , Not interested in anything to do well . This is my experience from my own writing , At first, I wrote because of my interest , And keep writing , Keep writing , The more you write, the better , Because if you write well, you will have a constant enthusiasm , Then continue to write , This creates a virtuous circle .（ You will die if you praise yourself ！！！）

I've seen many lovers fall in love 7、8 Years later, they broke up , Or it is difficult to maintain a long-term relationship after many times of love , Into marriage . In fact, love is like this , The same goes for doing things , There was always a rush of enthusiasm at first , It's not easy to stick to it . Persistence means giving up part of pleasure to face pain , Everyone wants to enjoy , Afraid of pain , This is one of human nature , So persistence is a very difficult thing .

Although it is one of human nature to be unable to insist , But it is not that there is no way to overcome it . How to refuse the temptation of thousands of starts , To insist on a completion ？ Facing my failed English study plan , After learning from the bitter experience, I made some conclusions , These summaries are all cliches , I hope for people like me “ Start enthusiasts ” Can help a little .

1. Cooling treatment . When there is an impulse , Before preparing to plan a long-term goal, suppress your hot heart , Cool it for a period of time , During this period , Don't make any plans , Take no action , This time should be one week . This week's time can help you eliminate those impulsive beginnings , Reduce the waste of energy . If this week passes , You still have the enthusiasm to start. Then start again , This at least shows that you really want to do it , such “ I really want to ” Your enthusiasm will push you to a good start .

2. From small to large . Make a long-term plan （ The goal is ） After that, we should make a plan （ The goal is ） Break it down into countless small goals . Because the long-term plan will make people feel distant and vague , Undetermined . If I ask , Where will you be in three years ？ I believe many people can't answer . But where will you be in three days ？ I believe many people can give the answer right away . Break down big goals into concrete ones , Can be objectively judged , Sub goals to be completed within the specified time . For example, if you plan to have English listening for a year , You can break it down into a week of listening 210 minute , Listening every day 30 minute , this 30 Minutes to listen BBCnews a . The more specific the goal, the more conducive it is to achieve , The small goal of each decomposition must have a mandatory deadline, It's not just about respecting your plan , It is also conducive to the expansion and Realization of subsequent plans .
Every spring I talk about going to Wuyuan , This year, Qingming Festival has finally come true , That's good ！！！
Every spring I talk about going to Wuyuan , This year, Qingming Festival has finally come true , That's good ！！！

3. Self reward small progress in time . I have mentioned this point many times ,20 It has been used for years , To test that . When you make progress by making a step-by-step plan , Reward yourself in time , Rewards are no matter how big or small , Don't care about the form , But there must be . I found that when a child abides by a good little code of conduct, if he is praised by adults in time, he will produce more and better codes of conduct . In psychology and management, this behavior is called “ Strengthening ”(positive reinforcement),“ Any result that increases the likelihood that we will perform this behavior in the future . Is to reward those behaviors that meet the organizational goals , To further strengthen these behaviors , Thus, it is conducive to the realization of organizational goals .” Every one of us has a child who needs to be recognized . When small goals are achieved, giving small rewards in time will promote you to achieve larger goals , After the big goal is completed, you should reward yourself well , Such as traveling abroad , Buy an SLR camera that you always wanted to buy but couldn't bear to buy （ In fact, I just changed my way to give myself gifts ！）

4. Tell someone about your plan . Many friends don't tell others about their plans , Fear of stress , Maybe it's because I love vanity , Whenever I tell my friends about my plan, I will be more motivated to do it . Because I'm afraid when my friend asks me how my plan is going , I can't answer because I didn't do it , Feel ashamed and embarrassed , To avoid shame . I will let everyone know what I am doing , Make it my motivation , This is also an invisible urge .( A trip to Tibet , Insist on running , I have told my friends about these plans for learning English , The implementation of the first two plans shows the effectiveness of this method , Learning English at this stage shows the ineffectiveness of this method ???)

5. Imagine doing it every day . Think about the good things that will happen when you finish your plan , If you achieve your goal , How happy you will be , How to grow , What a different life . Draw a beautiful vision for yourself , It has a powerful power to push you forward . The realization of my various travel plans depends on this beautiful imagination . In English study, whenever I imagine that I can learn it well , I will be excited to learn English for a while when I can talk with foreigners , It's better to learn for a while than not to learn （ I am comforting and paralyzing myself .）

6. Record goal progress . Take a little time to keep a diary every day , Make tables or graphs , These records clearly show every step of my growth , Children's shoes who have done project management must be handy . Manage your plan as a project , This is good for pushing the plan forward , When you see the achievements you have made, you will be more confident , Not easy to give up . Suppose you make a 20 Weekly weight loss plan , Record your weight once a week , Make a graph , When you see the weight curve for the first three weeks, it shows a downward trend , You will have more confidence and motivation to carry out your weight loss plan .（ If it is an upward trend curve , What about swelling ？ Then you should be blind ！）

7. Keep early hours , Set up a good schedule .（ This seems to have nothing to do with achieving the goal , Actually, it matters a lot .） This is one of the important experiences I have gained after persisting in morning running for more than a year . I often tell myself in my heart that ：“ All your big plans can't come true , There are only two small problems ： I can't get up in the morning , I can't get off the line at night .” Good work and rest time is conducive to the realization of the plan . such as , You set the weekend 6 Get up at o'clock and run in the morning , But the night before you 2 Go to bed at o'clock , It's a bit of a dream to carry out this plan . Usually , I am more efficient in the morning , So I like to get up early , Use your morning time to do what you think is more important , Like running , Like writing , Most people I know, including myself , After staying up late and sleeping, there will be restlessness and self reproach , This kind of mood affects the daytime work very much . Keep early hours , Have regular work and rest time , Many goals will be achieved , For example, in the morning 7 Read English for an hour at o'clock in the morning , On the evening of 9 Click on the one hour plan to study psychology ???

This article encourages you ！
Ps： After writing this article, I made up my mind , Start learning English again , The big goal is to listen to one month's BBCnews, The small goal is to listen to an article every day , A listening 10 All over , I'd rather finish one now , Don't start thousands of times . If this goal is achieved, I will reward myself to have afternoon tea in an emotional coffee shop , I tell you about this plan , I hope you can become my motivation .（ I used almost all of the above methods ???）