What kind of experience is middle-aged unemployment

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The following is about users “ Men are forty ” A Zhihu answer from , This is an answer recorded in chronological order , After two months , Finally, I didn't find a job , It may not be updated , See reading the original text for the link to the original text

2022 year 2 month 24 Thursday, Sunday

I am a 80 people , Genus monkey , Already this year 41 Year old .

A month ago , I am an executive of a company , One and a half years of employment , Mainly responsible for the establishment and management of the company's brand marketing system 、 The company's internal training system and some internal control systems .

The work was carried out in an orderly manner , In less than half a year, the overall business structure was clarified , We have trained a team that can fight well without touching the original team , We have also done several large-scale projects at the national level .

Everything seems to be going well , I even got a new car . Just when I started planning 22 When I was thinking about my work ,HR Knocked on the door of my office , Tell me ： I was fired .

This is an unexpected and reasonable result . I've heard the truth of "rabbit dies and dog cooks" since childhood , I just didn't expect to come so soon . Calmly accepted the fact , Negotiate compensation with the company , put things away , get home .

Didn't tell the family , Think about having a peaceful new year . But I kept thinking about the current assets and liabilities ：

spending ：

liabilities （ mortgage + Car loan + Net loan ）：14000 element / month

Nanny salary ：2300 element / month

income ：

Rent income ：3500 element / month

Early fixed investment income ：3000 element / month

Family savings are 0, The wife is a full-time wife , The child has just turned two , I'm going to kindergarten . I was optimistic about a private kindergarten near my home ,3 ten thousand / Year of , Now it seems that we can only ignore it .

I know that in the talent market , People like me are not popular . Being too old has the advantage of experience , But many bosses prefer young and energetic people , most important of all , For me , They are cheaper , Better to use ： If you don't have a family, you can work overtime all the time , The wage requirement is also very low . Sure enough , I submitted several resumes after the beginning of the new year , I also asked some headhunters for help , There is no suitable job . There have been several interviews , It is also because of the salary that there is no follow-up .

This month's loan , For reasons of severance compensation , Not too big a problem .

Next month ？ Next month ？

I don't know .

Dismissed the nanny , Yesterday, I hung a rented house on the Internet waiting to be sold , But people from the chain family say that the market is also sluggish this year , It is very common that there is a price but no market , Even if I am willing to reduce the price, I may not be able to sell it .

Accompanied the child to the library to get a borrowing card , I lent him some picture books , Go home and study with him .

I received a HR The telephone said that the interview felt good , But there are more suitable candidates. I hope to cooperate next time . She hung up the phone with a wry smile , Continue to read with the children .

Back at home , Have no appetite to eat , Just smoking one cigarette after another .

The world of adults , Collapse is just a moment . But , I don't even have the right to collapse .

2022 year 2 month 28 Japan

I have had two interviews in the past two days , They are all related to this major .

Facing an interviewer who is several years younger than me , My state of mind is very calm , Self coping is appropriate , Just lied about the reason for leaving .

This is the most embarrassing question for me , The second reason is why I am willing to choose to lower the salary so much to interview for this job . I can only lie with my eyes closed , He talked about a lot of prospects for the development of the industry 、 Nonsense about personal career platform . This is the last bit of self-esteem left for yourself .

Of course , I don't place my hopes entirely on the job market , I have thought about opening a take out shop and doing a small business , Just be able to maintain normal expenses at home . Call a friend who makes a restaurant for advice , After a long silence, he settled an account for me ：

Customer unit price 25 element （ This is the average unit value of simple takeout meals in my city ）

Meituan platform charges 3 element + Distribution fee subsidy 3 element + Online promotion expenses 3.5 element + Cost of packaging materials 2 element + Cost of raw materials 7 element + Rent, water and electricity 1 element =19.5 element

Gross profit per order 5.5 element , Gross profit margin 22%.

These are not unplanned expenses ： Customer manager relationship maintenance expenses of the platform 、 Costs for handling malicious complaints from customers, etc ……

“ It's too deep in here , You can't control ” He told me so .

I smile bitterly , Hung up the phone .

Saturday , A good friend called me , He works in real estate , They were also laid off by the company .

I want to have a job here , I said congratulations on joining the ranks of the unemployed , We'll have a drink when you finish your resignation .

The weather was cloudy all February , The biting cold and howling wind are just like my mood .

Fortunately, this past weekend finally came to light , Ushered in the long lost warm sun .

Take the children for a walk in the surrounding park , He is still young , The eyes are full of hope .

Now my biggest problem is that the asset allocation in the early stage is not ideal , Resulting in very low risk resistance , Cash flow is very tight .

If the house goes well , Can solve this problem . But since last year , The real estate market is crying , Intermediaries generally say that there is a price but no market , It's not easy to make a move , It's been up for a week now , None of the intended customers .

My wife is also trying to find a job , There will be an interview tomorrow , I hope everything goes well .

80 Xiao monkey in the year , I'm too old this year , Everything is not suitable for

20220304

Just finished an interview , An advertising company of Party B .

We talked for almost three hours , I spent two and a half hours asking about my past resources , Instead, I took a glance at my professional ability .

They said that their company had been engaged in real estate business before , Now start to open up a new track , Be a business line in a new industry , So I need my industry resources .

It seems that the real estate industry is really bad , The news from the upstream and downstream of the industrial chain is a howl .

My confidence in the sale of my house is getting weaker and weaker .

Last month's loan was repaid with compensation , There is still one month left for me .

20220308

Many friends in the comment area questioned why people still owe online loans when they are middle-aged ？

17 I left a very stable but visible job in , I chose to start my own business . But failed , Not only has it hollowed out its deposits , I still owe a lot of money outside , wait until 19 After the birth of the child in , The economic situation is even worse , Constantly borrowing from the east to make up for the West , Hold on to 2020 At the end of the year, I gave up , Before going to work in the company .

About selling houses ？

Before the most difficult time, I didn't move the idea of selling a house , On the one hand, there is always a stable rental income , On the other hand, the form of real estate at that time also looked good . Although the form of real estate was not good last year , But the monthly salary income can cover the expenses , So I don't think it's a big problem . Now make up your mind .

Some other questions ？

Nanny is a part-time worker

My wife is now looking for a job , But it didn't go well

The investment income is the water put in many years ago , Fixed every year 36000 The interest of , But the principal cannot be withdrawn for the time being .

A company that refused to call me again , Let me have a second try , This rekindled my hope . Make good preparations in the afternoon , I hope there will be results .

Yesterday the children went to the kindergarten , Look at him skipping , I feel very sad .

20220317

Today, I went to pick up my son from school , The two-and-a-half-year-old child is actually the only one in our family who follows the working hours , This is rather ironic .

The interview is not ideal during this period , There was a job where I had a very good first-hand chat ,hr They all said that they would let me see the boss and make a decision , But there was no news in the future , There is also a position in the new hope group , It's good to talk , But there is no follow-up . Maybe the salary doesn't match Or maybe I misunderstood something .

I have insomnia every day , You must drink some wine every night to go to sleep . I used to drink beer , On the one hand, it's not enough , In addition, I want to save some money , Bought a bottle of 28 Yuan Erguotou , You get drunk after drinking two liang at a time . In fact, I don't have the capacity to drink , But frustrated people seem to get drunk very easily .

I also want to do some small business , I bought some cheap building blocks and toys in pinduoduo , Now there is a stall in the community , Look at the market . While calculating the cost , While perfecting the thinking , They directly set up a social store for children in the community bp come out . Look at XMind The map above , Suddenly it came back , I am not the same person anymore .

A frustrated, failed and unemployed middle-aged man , This is who I am now .

20220322

I have some good news , A boss I used to know gave me an outsourcing business ： For a new brand in their family VI Planning of manuals and online communication .

I dragged my designer friends I knew to take over the job , It is expected that each of us will share 4 All around . Prepared some ideas , I'll make a proposal tomorrow , I hope it goes well .

My wife has gone to work this Monday , A friend introduced a clerical job with a business nature , A month 6000 block , She was a little nervous after not working for several years .

But the most lost is me .

20220402

Recently, I have been in contact with some former friends , Ask what's going on , Look for opportunities .

At the beginning of this year, everyone is not very good

nail : Real estate industry , The one whose debt has just been extended , The whole department was optimized at the beginning of the year , Now I raise birds with my baby at home .

B : Senior designer , I left my job the year before last to open my own coffee shop , Business is bad , Now I'm thinking about taking out , And buy a truck to make car coffee .

C : Head of Ericsson's government and enterprise business department , Work is no problem , But the project at hand will be closed immediately , The company gave him two choices , Or go to Guangxi for a new market , Or leave , He's struggling .

Ding : For construction , There is no shortage of business , But the developer owes a lot , Progress payment arrears are common , One family owes him money for nearly three years , Ready to block the door .

Most of the time, it's not that we don't work hard , Under the general trend of the times , The tiny splash that an individual can stir up will always be quickly wiped out by the trend , It's not easy this year , Come on, everybody ！

20220424

I suddenly found myself losing confidence .

The failure of job hunting time and time again , Interview after interview , Let me have deep doubts about myself ： Whether my so-called success and experience in the past are just a few waves under the tide of the times . I'm really weak , It's bad ……

But I can't allow this idea to take root in my mind , Because now I have a family to bear , There is a little more than two years old child who needs to be raised and educated , No matter how hard it is , And we need to stick to it .

I have tried many things during this period ： Online car Hailing 、 Wholesale toy stalls 、 Even short videos , As a result, I found that the most suitable one for me is to help write a project on the free fish , Simple 、 quick 、 High matching .

Just think this is a good direction , Be sealed by idle fish