Mid year summary of 33 year old programmer

author | Lei brother

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At different stages of life, there will be different ways of life and angles of thinking , This is a very interesting thing ~ 

such as , I am here 22 I will think ： How can I make a lot of money , How can we appreciate and raise wages ？

stay 25 I will think ： Where to buy a house ？ When to get married ？

stay 28 I will think ： Real life TM Bad , When will it be time to repay the mortgage ？ I wish the child would be more obedient .

stay 30 I will think ： I went to ,30 year , Nothing yet , What to do ？

This year, （33 year ） Will think ： I will take my son there this week ？ How can I make my family and my life a little happier ？

Yes , I am what I am , The psychological development of a vulgar ordinary person .

1. Another way “ love your life ”

See this , Someone will say ： Lei brother , You have changed , It becomes greasy , It is no longer the blood that used to be “ juvenile ” 了 .

Actually, I don't think so , I just changed my way “ love your life ” nothing more , Not to point of the losing enthusiasm for life . contrary , I feel very comfortable now 、 Very happy , There's still something I'm after , And what makes me happy .

This state of affairs is similar to the popular “ Lie flat ” or “ Rotten ” It's different , I understand the so-called “ Lie flat ” It means no more struggle and change , Just keep the status quo ; and “ Rotten ” Is no longer struggling , Anyway, barefoot is not afraid to wear shoes , That's it , How I love . Although these two words are no longer struggling , But there is less pursuit of future life , So I think my current state is the same as these two words .

2. Take care of your heart

My current state is from At first, I only focused on material life , Change to focus on your inner life . This does not mean that , I'm not interested in money , Money is no longer important , Not at all , I haven't reached this level myself .

I just think , If only one dollar can be spent in life , What I should think about now is , How can we enjoy the happiness brought by this one dollar to the greatest extent , Instead of focusing on , How to make more one dollar .

Because desire is infinite , When you earn the next “ one dollar ”, You will start to think about how to earn the next “ Two dollars ”, At the end of the day you will find , You've been earning money all your life “ one dollar ” On the way , But wasted the fun of living well , This is extremely tragic .

So now I won't consider whether my next car will drive BBA Or Tesla ？ Instead, I think I should drive my car “ lousy car ” Which more interesting place to go ？ I won't consider if I have money , Where should I go to sell a better house ？ But how to make the present house more warm 、 Happier .

I think it's a good state , Just like kongyan （ Confucius and Yan Hui ） The joy of life , Why Confucius and Yan Hui are so powerful ？ There are so many people worshiping ？ Because they are never controlled by matter , Will not be enslaved by objects , Be an official when you are an official , If you can't be an official, you should teach well , Have a good time when you are rich , I am still happy when I am poor , It's like 《 The analects of Confucius 》 As described in ： Confucius said ：“ Xian Zai Hui also , A diet , A scoop of water , In the mean Lane , People can't afford to worry about it , I'm happy to go back . Xian Zai Hui also ”.

3. I used to be VS Now of I

I used to be , I can't sleep at night because of things I can't control , For example, I can't sleep at night , Start worrying about when the mortgage will be paid off ？ When can parents live a happy life ？ What if I lose my job ？

Now of I , I feel that my previous behavior is too alarmist . Since it is beyond your control , Why worry ？ Will these things get better because of your worry ？ The answer is obviously not , Since I won't , Why do you force yourself so tired ？

3.1 About the mortgage

What is the difference between paying off the loan and not paying off the loan ？

For real life , There may be little difference , It's just that the number on the bank card has been added to you or the bank , So there's nothing to worry about .

3.2 About whether parents are happy

About whether parents are happy , The key point of this problem is to “ Happiness ” The definition of , If parents' happiness is to see whether their children are happy , That is, they have no worries about food and clothing in the circle that their parents are familiar with , A simple life , Do what you want to do , Meet your children and grandchildren occasionally , Then whether children are happy or not is the most critical factor that affects whether parents are happy or not , therefore , You have a good time 、 You are happy , Your parents can be happy , therefore , This is not something money can solve .

3.3 What to do if you lose your job ？

What if I lose my job ？ Unemployment in the long run , Like death , It will come one day , Just call later “ retired ” nothing more . that , What does it matter if it is earlier or later ？ If one day comes , You will because “ unemployment ” And starve to death ？ In this extremely rich material life now , Probably not , So since you won't starve to death , There is nothing to worry about ？ After all, in the long run, except for life and death , Everything else is small .

This small probability event is what Buddhism says “ Impermanence ” nothing more , Buddhism says ： All things come together by reason , At last, they parted because of fate , Nothing is eternal , Everything is an illusion , Even you are not you “ own ”. If you are what you are now , Look at your childhood photos , Who is that man ？ So understanding impermanence , Accept impermanence , Life is less painful .

4. Another perspective ： Eight hardships in life

First of all , I'm not a Buddhist , No conversion , And Buddhism doesn't need to be like other churches , Need to preach and preach everywhere , I'm just telling you another possibility , As for whether you accept , Acknowledge or disapprove , That's your business , It's not .

Buddhism says , Eight hardships in life ： raw 、 The old 、 disease 、 die 、 Please do not 、 Don't want to come 、 Love leave 、 Hate and resentment can .

• There is no need to say that death and birth , It's all human suffering . and What cannot be asked is ： You can't get what you want , Got and didn't want , Therefore, it is always in a state of no seeking .

• Don't want to come ： Things I don't like , It will happen .

• Love leave ： Favorite thing 、 Love things , One day I will leave you .

• Hate and resentment can ： Someone you don't like 、 The person you hate will surely meet you , There is no way to avoid it .

All the above sufferings are experienced by everyone , So there is no need to be too sad .

5. Take stock of this year's harvest

1、 This year's skill improvement should be badminton , After moving to a new neighborhood last year , In this year 4 In January, I started to talk with my uncle in the community 、 Aunts play badminton ,5 In January, I enrolled in a badminton adult class .

although 2017 In, he participated in the badminton men's doubles organized by the company , A silver medal , But it is still a bit overwhelming to fight with my uncle and aunt who have been fighting for many years , So learn systematically （ Badminton skills ） I feel it is necessary , And I feel that the level of badminton has been greatly improved this month .

2、 The biggest insistence this year is to write every week 2 Original interview article , This thing i Have insisted on 8 It's been months , There was no interruption in any week during this period , So it's very gratifying , As shown in the figure below ：

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Just like Xingye's movies ： At first glance, I don't know what I like , Look again at the man in the mirror ！ We live our lives every day , Feeling different life and scenery , May you accept impermanence , Enjoy your own life , Come on! , brothers .

It's up to you to judge right and wrong , Disdain is to listen to people , Gain or loss is more important than number .

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